He is just not that into you.
April 1, 2009
收錯愛情風，總覺得讀起上來有點忸怩，還是英文一句”He is just not that into you”，簡潔有力，瀟灑不拖泥帶水來得好。有點像Love Actually，在短短兩小時交錯不同的故事線，展示不同的愛情觀。但Love Actually始終以Christmas為背景，聖誕節就是普天同慶，與快樂劃上等號的節日。情侶？聖誕節二人世界，感受溫馨浪漫氣氛是指定動作。單身嗎？不要緊，聖誕節一定找到你的對先生／對小姐。總之，Love Actually是一部看完後會心微笑的愛情小品，王子總會找到公主的童話故事。童話不一定真實，在現實中發生的機會率可能只是千萬分之一，但，我們都需要童話。小孩子以為童話是真理，堅守好人有好報的信念。成年人看透更多，卻又在不知不覺間以童話作依靠，現實太多殘酷的真實故事，童話是他們的烏托邦。Too good to be true？不要緊，還是有人會受落。
對不起，扯遠了，我知道。He’ s just not that into you與前者最大的分別是，每一條故事線都很真實，一邊看一邊會覺得很有共鳴。男女主角，是現實社會中每一個男女的縮影。
你是痴痴地等待，屢敗屢戰，對愛情充滿憧憬的Gigi？還是恃著對愛情了解透徹，玩世不恭的Alex？經驗尚淺，misinterpret異性的心意，然後自己暗暗快樂甜蜜一整天。明白後可能會心碎，但若即若離的曖昧感覺，是折磨，也是誘惑。
有另一半的你，會像Ben一樣，享受外遇的快感嗎？會的，Anna如此attractive、flirty的女人還是值得你為她出軌，即使你明知Anna有關係非比尋常的藍顏知己Conor，而你的妻子Janine還是在積極挽救婚姻。
科技發展一日千里，像Mary沉迷於虛擬愛情的人比比皆是。”now you just have to go around checking all these different portals just to get rejected by seven different technologies. ” 是電影中其中一個笑位，靜下來想起卻有點ironic。
Beth和Neil是perfect couple，但每一段感情當事人太投入還是會找到imperfect的地方。細水長流，你嫌過於平淡。激情新鮮，又抱怨不夠安全感。在戀愛中，就是常常太在意旁觀者的意見，以旁觀者的尺來量度戀人。
一切，還是follow your heart，衷心相信你的感覺最好。
電影最後Gigi的獨白，是最好的summary。
” Girls are taught a lot of stuff growing up. If a guy punches you he likes you. Never try to trim your own bangs and someday you will meet a wonderful guy and get your very own happy ending. Every movie we see, Every story we’re told implores us to wait for it, the third act twist, the unexpected declaration of love, the exception to the rule. But sometimes we’re so focused on finding our happy ending we don’t learn how to read the signs. How to tell from the ones who want us and the ones who don’t, the ones who will stay and the ones who will leave. And maybe a happy ending doesn’t include a guy, maybe… it’s you, on your own, picking up the pieces and starting over, freeing yourself up for something better in the future. Maybe the happy ending is… just… moving on. Or maybe the happy ending is this, knowing after all the unreturned phone calls, broken-hearts, through the blunders and misread signals, through all the pain and embarrassment you never gave up hope. “
” Girls are taught a lot of stuff growing up. If a guy punches you he likes you. Never try to trim your own bangs and someday you will meet a wonderful guy and get your very own happy ending. Every movie we see, Every story we’re told implores us to wait for it, the third act twist, the unexpected declaration of love, the exception to the rule. But sometimes we’re so focused on finding our happy ending we don’t learn how to read the signs. How to tell from the ones who want us and the ones who don’t, the ones who will stay and the ones who will leave. And maybe a happy ending doesn’t include a guy, maybe… it’s you, on your own, picking up the pieces and starting over, freeing yourself up for something better in the future. Maybe the happy ending is… just… moving on. Or maybe the happy ending is this, knowing after all the unreturned phone calls, broken-hearts, through the blunders and misread signals, through all the pain and embarrassment you never gave up hope. “
不管甜蜜苦戀暗戀心淡分手還是單身，最重要的還是學會愛自己。
